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Keeping your Perfectionism Humble

Pride is especially nasty because it hides. One hiding place for pride is inside of perfectionism. This doesn’t mean perfectionism is always masquerading as pride, but in order to be the most “perfect” perfectionist, you will want to uncover any sneaky pride issues. The good news is first: Perfectionism can produce excellent results in your life and be part of a well-adjusted personality. Now for the bad news: When perfectionism is unbridled – causing intense personal stress and discouragement, or is hurtful to one’s relationships – the result and consequences are pride.

Some Signs of Pride/Unchecked Perfectionism include:

  • Thinking more highly of one’s self or abilities than is accurate, or believing others cannot do what you can
  • Approving of others based on what they do or don’t do
  • Thinking certain tasks are beneath you
  • Being inflexible when it comes to compromise, especially in relationships
  • Giving up when something can’t be perfect
  • Concentrating more on your reputation or doing activities for God, than about your relationship with Him
  • Unwilling to listen to advice or correction
  • Thinking, ‘At least I don’t do that.’

Keeping Room Tips:

Use these Questions regularly in order to maintain Humility/Humble Perfectionism:

  • “If I can actually achieve perfection, why would I need a Savior?”
  • “Is this the right situation to strive for excellence, or is this a good time to accept good enough since I have prioritized other things for excellence?”
  • “Am I trying to achieve transformation out of my own efforts, or am I allowing the Holy Spirit to be the Holy Spirit?”
  • “Am I more focused on my performance than asking God to make me more like Him?”
  • “Do I spend more time thinking about what others should and shouldn’t be doing than spending time confessing my own sin?”
  • “Would others say that I prefer to be thought of as right or perfect than as loving?”

A flawless performance is nothing to you. I learned God-worship when my pride was shattered. Heart-shattered lives ready for love don’t for a moment escape God’s notice (Psalm 51:16-17, Msg).