Are You Aware of the Modern Mindsets about Porn?

When a young man strong in his faith read a 2014 Keeping Room article about porn, (click here to review) his response was: “She’s overreacting. Porn is just a normal part of life. It’s everywhere, and in everything.”

When a young woman devoted to Christ and purity recently considered dating a young man, she asked: “When it comes to dating a guy, I’m assuming porn/lust will be something that definitely was/is a struggle, or will happen occasionally. So, what signs do I look for that he’s handling it well?”

When Christian Counseling Today decided to publish their most recent periodical (vol. 22, no. 1, 2017), the entire issue was dedicated to educating Christian counselors on the serious epidemic of porn use.

Jen’s Keeping Room Tips:

1a.Watch out for reactions like the young man’s above. Find out which ways the youth in your life are thinking about porn. Have they fallen for the lies culture has been feeding them:

  • Do they think porn is just an acceptable part of sexuality?
  • Do they consider it to be innocent and contemporary?
  • Do they believe it’s okay in moderation?
  • Do they deny its brain-damaging and addictive nature?
  • Do they comprehend the spiritual and relational ramifications?
  • Do they dismiss the need for accountability if there is temptation?
  • Do they fear that it might be considered judgmental or intolerant not to accept someone’s porn usage?

“For among them are those who creep into households and capture weak women, burdened with sins and led astray by various passions…men corrupted in mind…who will not get very far, for their folly will be plain to all.” (2 Tim. 3:6, 8, 9)

2.Invite and celebrate questions like the one asked by the young woman above. Don’t make the next generation feel ashamed for wondering about porn. They didn’t ask for their world; but they do have to function well in it. An authentic walk is a healthy one. Dialogue with them, inspire them, and teach them Truth until they believe it. And pray for them to find like-minded boyfriends/girlfriends!

 “If we walk in the light…the blood of Jesus…cleanses us from all sin.” (1 Jn. 1:7)

3a. After having some conversations, parents may decide their kids are among the many who are at high risk. You may decide you need further protection when it comes to technology. One reputable organization is: Covenant Eyes.  You may also want to read: Help! My Kids are Viewing Pornography by Tim Chailles.

3b. Look for the existence of red flags for porn. Loved ones demonstrating a number of these signs may indicate the need for support:

  • Increased interest or participation in frequent dating around and pre-marital/extra-marital sex
  • Twisted views of sex
  • Interest and involvement in sexting & questionable video chatting
  • Being secretive
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Sexual activity & symptoms of STD’s
  • Damaged relationships
  • Inability to have healthy relationships
  • Very low self-confidence
  • Increased anger
  • Turning away from God and His people

3c. Research counseling, groups, and programs designed to help with porn recovery and accountability, specific to gender and age group.

“In an abundance of counselors, there is safety.” (Prov. 11:14)

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