10 Things You Should Know Before You Take a Peak at Porn

The invitations are everywhere. For men and for women. For teens. For children as young as 8 or 9. One glance at a sidebar photo, one click on a “harmless” site, one ten-second photo, one media rental, one novel series, and before you know it, one turns to two. It seems so common – and it is. It can seem so good – but it’s not. Pornography is more dangerous than ever due to a greater acceptance than ever. Therefore, it’s crucial to refresh your memory about the in’s and out’s of this industry so that you can protect yourself and your loved ones.

  1. Pornography, to any degree, for any purpose, and in any context, violates God’s beautiful design for sexuality and His commands for how it must be honored. His standards don’t adjust for our humanity; our standards need to adjust to His divinity. (Job 40:8; Ps. 19:7-11; Is. 48:17-18)
  2. Porn requires you to change your values so that you will feel permission to rewrite God’s other standards as well. With eroded values, you don’t have to consider how you view or treat others, and you will eventually lose your desire to hear anything God has to say to you in His Word. (Is. 66:4; 1 Cor. 2:14)
  3. Pornography needs you to lust so that you won’t love. It will even try to convince married couples that it can be beneficial for love; but it will only be toxic and lead to lust and harm. (Prov. 6:25; Mt. 5:28; Col. 3:5)
  4. Pornography makes you believe it will improve your life and meet your needs, but its deceptive goal is to make sure you never feel satisfied so that you keep going back for more. Don’t be fooled into thinking you can “use porn in moderation.” (Ps. 107:9)
  5. Pornography deprioritizes your relationships. You can’t have both fantasy and a real person. If you choose fantasy, your self-gratification will cause you to struggle in the real world. If you choose a real person, you have no need to maintain a fantasy life. You will function at a higher level relationally and get to experience the unique sexual experience God has planned for you in the context of intimate marriage. (1 Cor. 13; Heb. 13:4)
  6. Pornography opens a broad door for evil. Stop and think about those behind and in front of the cameras – their ages, how they got there, how they are treated, and the condition of their souls. And don’t forget about porn in books and artwork, too. Something is going on in the hearts and lives of those authors and artists, too.
  7. Porn dumbs down your mind. It requires that your mind give more and more attention to it and that your brain store more and more of its visuals, leaving less time and space for higher thoughts. (Phil. 4:8)
  8. Porn turns you into an addict. Then it wants you to keep it a secret to keep you from getting any help before it destroys you. And considering the prevalence of porn today, there’s a good chance that you know someone who is keeping their addiction a secret – for now. Eventually they will become so desensitized and so desperate that their behavior will move from hidden internal behavior to overt external behavior.
  9. Christians involved in pornography are like inmates who don’t realize their cell is open. You are empowered for something far greater than sexual pleasure; you are primed for holiness. (Col. 3)
  10. Pornography is a worldly enemy that is planning to stalk you. It’s waiting to take your human sexual curiosity and desire, and exchange it for deep and painful shame. But as a Christian, you can grip the Living Spirit of Pure Jesus to continually guide you to express a self-controlled, healthy, holy, fulfilling sexualitybeginning at puberty (loving your future spouse well with your early choices) and lasting for life (enjoying a faithful, sexual relationship with your spouse and a holy relationship with your Savior).

 Keeping Room Tips: 

Just as airlines have a procedure if there is loss of oxygen in the cabin, Christians today need a procedure for dealing with the world’s pervasive pornography. Put the oxygen mask on yourself first (immediately devise a plan to keep you from the wiles of porn). Then, put the oxygen mask on your loved ones (provide conversation, support, and accountability for others). Or allow someone to put an oxygen mask on you (get help if you are already struggling with pornography). Ultimately, everyone on the plane needs oxygen (no one is immune to sexual temptation).  

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